Choosing the Right Fit: Does less competitive = less commitment?
Dear Coach Bryant:
My daughter has always played for a competitive lacrosse club in town, but this year, she likely won’t make the top-tier team. We’re thinking that since her new team is less competitive, the commitment will be lighter. This could finally give her a chance to focus on other interests, like participating in school clubs and social activities—things she’s struggled to fit into her schedule in the past.
I’m wondering if it’s okay for her to miss some practices or games to accommodate these new priorities. Will it really matter if she can’t be there all the time, given that the team isn’t as competitive?
Wondering in Westfield
Dear Wondering:
It’s great that your daughter wants to continue playing lacrosse, even after not making the top team. It’s also wonderful that she’s interested in exploring new activities and engaging in school clubs and social events. However, it’s important to remember that even on less competitive teams, there are still standards, and every player’s contribution is significant. Here’s what you should consider:
Every Team Has Expectations
Regardless of the team’s level, there are basic commitments, like attending practices and games, that need to be met. Even on less competitive teams, other players and coaches rely on your child to contribute. If she can’t consistently meet those expectations, it could impact team dynamics and her overall experience. And, there could be consequences for missing practices, like loss of playing time.
Understand the Commitment Level
Before committing to a team, have your daughter ask the coach directly about the team’s expectations. How many practices per week are required? Are there consequences for missing games? Knowing this upfront will help you assess whether her schedule can realistically accommodate the commitment. If the expectations feel too demanding, recreational leagues might offer a better balance of flexibility and fun.
Develop Life Skills
Being part of a team, regardless of the level, teaches valuable life skills like working hard and meeting expectations—skills that will benefit your daughter well beyond sports. Imagine a professional deciding not to attend meetings at work because their company isn’t the top in the industry. It wouldn’t be acceptable, and it would likely damage their reputation and relationships. Similarly, learning to show up (like everybody else) and put forth her full commitment now will prepare your daughter for future roles where dependability and commitment are key to success.
This Misconception Extends to College Sports
Many people assume that so-called lower NCAA divisions, like Division III, require minimal commitment. While Division III programs vary in competitiveness, all teams have expectations. Even less intense programs uphold standards for attendance and effort. Intramural and club sports in college can be a great way for students to stay active without the demands of a varsity schedule.
The Reality
Joining a team is a commitment that comes with responsibilities, regardless of the level. If your daughter’s schedule makes it difficult to fully participate, exploring recreational leagues could be a better fit. These programs still offer the benefits of teamwork and physical activity without the heavier time commitments. By setting clear expectations now and understanding the team’s specific requirements, you can help her make the best decision for her situation.
